WHAT OPRAH HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN..

*got this from Ratih's FS blog.. it's girls' must-read..*

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better".
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...

There is nothing cute about baggage...

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.
Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...
When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Gimme Your Stuff

I found this interesting blog called Gimme Your Stuff while browsing Anjali's candy blog. It's a cultural-exchange blog where you can swap items with other members from all around the world. You'll be the ambassador for your country.

It's really a wonderful way of getting to know the cultures of other nations..

Stuffs I can get you..
* Confectioneries (candies/cookies) from Indonesia
* Instant noodles
* Spices/soup mix
* Coffee/teas
* Souvenirs/postcards
* Local Magazines/Newspapers
* Local Recipes
* Fabrics/Batik clothes
* Hand-made jeweleries
* Beauty stuffs
* mix CDs
* Other stuffs

Stuff I want to get..
same as the above,
with the addition:
* Beads and jewelery-making materials
* Cute fabrics
* Stationeries

Since I'm a moslem, I cannot eat stuff qualified as haraam (mainly pork & alcohol). So please don't swap with those things.. ^_^

If you're interested, post a comment and leave your email address, or contact me at savrina@gmail.com..

February 2008 update:
Dear friends,
due to the high shipping cost (which is a lot more expensive than the stuff itself), I'm really sorry to say that I can't swap stuff with anyone outside the ASEAN countries yet. But I can send postcards to anywhere in the world. So if you're interested in 'postcard-exchange', drop me a comment or email me at savrina@gmail.com.

The Green Uniform

One day in April, my friends and I decided that we MUST HAVE A UNIFORM. So we went to three textile shops in Jalan Solo, hoping to find the agreeable material for all of us (since we all have different favorite colors).

About two hours later (after eliminating other choices which were too colorful, too brown, too pink, too checkered, too polkadot, and too expensive), we bought this green flowery fabrics (it's very cheap too ^_^).

The next mission was to make those fabrics into ready-to-wear clothes, so we could take pictures of us wearing the same material.

Three and a half month later....

Taaa.. daaa.....

I made this myself..

Note that I'm not wearing it in the picture.. because it's too big around the bust, and the zipper on the side making it so stiff.. I think I'm going to re-do this after our photo-taking session.. :'(

Bakmi Pak Pele

Looking for an authentic bakmi jawa near the city? You should go to Pak Pele.. It's located in the southeast side of Alun-alun Utara Yogyakarta.. (though they have a branch in Godean too -near my house, that is- but it's not as good as the original place)

The portion is not too big and the taste is just right, not too salty nor too bland. They have fried rice too..


Nasi goreng Magelangan (Magelangan fried rice): fried rice w/ yellow noodle


Mie jawa godhog (javanese noodle soup)

Price: Rp 13.000 for noodle/rice + wedang ronde (ginger hot drink w/ glutinous rice ball & stuff)

All that jewel..

There's always a fad among the housewives (mom, Tante Nena & their friends) in my neighborhood. A couple years ago, they signed up for flower arranging class in Rumah Bunga. I attended the class once, as a replacement for my mother who couldn't make it. Now, we already accepting orders from neighbors.

The latest fad was jewelry making. And those mothers always asked me to join them. I'm pretty sure that's because I can drive them around whenever they need to do some shopping. Or maybe some of them think of me as the daughter they never had (?) or maybe... a very potential future daughter in law.. ^_^ yeah right..

Here are some of the stuff that I made..




I learn how to make necklace, bracelet, and then earrings.. Recently I upgraded my skill into brooch making, which is a litte bit more complicated. And I gave my very first brooch to my potential future mother-in-law.. ^_~ (too bad I didn't take the photo..)

If you are interested in bead jewelry making (and you live in Yogyakarta), you should go to Toko Petra, in the north of Beringharjo Market (just ask around). They have everything that you need to make many kinds of jewelry..

Beware of pickpockets though!!